We want our women to be funny ... but

It’s weird to start an answer with a question, but situation calls for it. Who’s the funniest woman you know? Or is globally seen as funny? You do need some time to actually answer that right, but try asking that same question for men, and you would actually have more answers than you think you had. Ellen’s show would be a no match to the generally offensive male humor you see on South Park, Beavis n Butthead, jay n silent bob n so on. Legendary comedians like Jim Carrey, Martin Lawrence, Eddie Murphy, Mike Myers, Robin Williams all the way up to the silent reformist Charlie Chaplin. The global idea of funny from men to women somehow ducks down women contributors by huge numbers and even ages.

The prevalence of depressive disorder in Pakistan is at phenomenal rate of 44.4% as per the most recent poll conducted 6 years ago, that’s how updated we are, (25.5 percent in males and 57.5 percent in females) according to eminent psychiatrist and Pakistan Association for Mental Health (PAMH).

Causes can diversely vary from severe financial and housing difficulties, large number of children and literacy in the background of social adversity were particularly closely associated with depression percent in both the genders. Taking a non-empirical approach I wouldn’t compare men or women’s mental stability or instability for all the things they do or they don’t in regards to humor. Keeping both external and internal factors constant for men and women, somehow men still stand out as the funnier gender. With merely 750 trained psychiatrists in Pakistan and most of them based in urban areas like Karachi, Lahore, Rawalpindi, Islamabad, Peshawar and Quetta, it is a lofty task to treat such a huge number of patients as well. In women's case even liberal movements could not trigger a recognition for sense of humor and women are still not funny. What is the excuse here people?

Comedy is not about happiness. It’s more about exaggeration and creating a situation that can transform even the darkest and most sadistic issue to be worthy of a gag. Sense of humor has the ability to simplify complexes into stupidity or wisdom while being hysterical. It’s also about maturity and the ability to understand things on a deeper level and feel the hidden gags in tragedy. But that’s not how women see it or adapt it and they still have a hard time learning it. They still get offended on things way more than men they would always find humor to be offensive, dirty, racist, sexist, chauvinist and so on. Ofcourse it’s not the same for all the women, it’s a general observation.

Men perceive humor with an approach of 'darker the better', 'more offensive the better', 'sometimes more abusive the better' and ofcourse 'the dirtier the better'. It’s not that women don’t know that, they can even identify it but they are unable to originally create it and epic for it. It always works on women when it comes to men's sex appeal. After falling for the looks the second thing majority women would look forward to in a guy would be his ability to be funny and use comedy.

Unless we’re talking about the feminist sadists that have a problem for every solution would not be the case. We want our women to be funny, men still think they deserve funny women. Men’s idea of funny women is not somebody who’s cracking jokes all the time, men can actually give liberty to that. Their idea of funny women would be the one who could enjoy or understand their jokes the same way as men would. Most of the married men evolve into sarcastic hilarious characters because their lives had shown them such epic levels of depression that they end up with an attitude of ‘FUCK THIS SHIT’. We don’t see women developing that very often. Sure they would have faced their fair share of depression but they turn sadist more often. Men somehow have the tendency to face these troubles and yet be a part of a comic movement.

The Pakistan Medical Association (PMA), the core body of Pakistani doctors, says: “It is alarming to note that a big proportion of our population is suffering from psychiatric disorders, principally depression. The prime reason for this problem may be considered the overall economic, social and political atmosphere of our country.”

It’s not men who associate women with sadism or tragedy. Women just have tendency to enjoy sadism way more than they would enjoy comedy on their own. All men know this as a fact you want to get a girl just make her laugh, because she can’t do it on her own. Even a feminist dude would understand this while a feminist woman might jump out of the crowd yelling 'that’s not true' one can only reply to her with a smile followed by “sit your ass down, you dry delusional mind-fuck you wouldn’t know".

Feminism just didn’t help make women funny. Instead it made women angry which is why they don’t get along very well with sense of humor. Feminist women have the tendency to somehow relate to tragedy and sadism, way more than normal women would and they are force feeding it to the society turning women angrier and less funny. This idea is prevailing all over the world now, no matter how privileged a woman would be she can always choose to be a victim and spread sadism further in society oh and it’s so not funny. Men want their women to be funny they crave that. But women just don’t get it and its getting worse.